It’s so hard to imagine that it’s been three years since October 7, 2023 and the terror our people faced that day. And the hatred and terror haven’t ended, either in Israel and here in the Diaspora. In thinking about the פרשה/Parasha/Portion of this week, בראשית/Bereshit, I’m reminded of God creating the world in seven days and that each and every person is a whole world themselves. The death of one person is the destruction of an entire world. On October 7, 2023 more than 1200 worlds were destroyed. Each of those worlds was linked to other worlds that have forever been irreparably damaged and can and will never look the way they looked before. We mourn the world, and worlds, we have lost. We mourn the innocence stolen from us. We mourn the hatred that the world continues to show towards our people. We mourn. We will speak more about this at services and beyond. For this week, Ayelet has written a דבר תורה/dvar torah for us to read. She was asked to write for a national newsletter for the organization Hadar and I’m happy to share her words here for all of us to learn from.
Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Hearshen
From Guest Writer – Ayelet Hearshen:
Have you ever heard the phrase, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? It’s very minimizing, isn’t it? Words do matter. Think about the scars and memories left behind by cruel words of another, versus the scars and memories of a physical injury. Which is still lasting? Which still keeps you up at night? If you’re like me, the emotional hurt from the words lasts much longer than the physical.
In the first parsha, the Torah hides words from us. In chapter four, verse eight, “ויאמר קין אל-הבל אחיו” (“and Cain said to Abel, his brother…”), and right after that, Cain kills Abel. It’s all in the same verse. What did Cain say? Did he express his love? His hatred? Did he apologize or say goodbye? Why don’t we know? The absence of an answer leaves it up to our interpretations and imaginations to figure out.
After reading the previous verses, I’d like to share my thoughts on what Cain said. We learn that it was Cain’s idea to bring an offering to G-d, “fruit of the land,” and Abel brings an offering as well, just after him, “fat portions from the firstborn of his flock.” It was Cain’s idea, but it was Abel who received the favor from G-d. Cain was jealous; his little brother had stolen his spotlight and his idea, and had done it better.
I believe Cain said something like this to his brother: “How dare you copy my idea? I am older; I thought of it; I should be the one to receive the praise. I hate you.” The two of them fought and argued, with Cain looking for every way to insult Abel. But the argument didn’t soothe the older brother’s anger; instead, as arguments often do, it stoked the fire. The fight led to violence and then to murder. That’s why it’s all one passuk.
This brings me to the theme of this Dvar Torah: words matter. The first homicide is directly linked to words. Clearly, sticks and stones do break bones, but words will always impact just as much, if not more.
In fact, words are so important they were used to create the world through ten statements (Pirkei Avot 5:1). This is remembered every morning when we say Baruch Sheamar, where we talk about how G-d spoke and the world came into existence. In a world where we’re constantly surrounded by words, texts, gossip, and social media, we need to remember to use our words to create good, like G-d did, and not bad, like Cain. Never forget that while words do hurt, they can also heal.
Shabbat Shalom,
Ayelet

